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Lois has always been quite different to the rest of the family—I mean, there’s six children directly, my brothers and sisters—and not really a part of the family, not really partaking in all the activities that we had together.
I mean, the one way I can view her is as being like a black sheep because there were so many times where there was trouble or upset. And I mean, I specifically remember when it became clear that Gary [Lois’ husband] had had extramarital affairs and this caused a huge amount of trouble for Lois. And unfortunately, she actually then blamed my parents somehow with that. And how that all relates, I don’t see. But I know that had an incredible effect on my mother and she really—it really broke her heart to feel that Lois had felt unhappy in life due to her.
And I know, Gary’s also been quite difficult. You know, there was an instance where I was in the States with them and I’d visited. And he had really a lot to say about African Americans and the Africans in my country, and I found it very offensive. I find that personally offensive for someone to be racist because I have, you know, no attention on that. And South Africa—it’s a rainbow nation. We’re made up of a number of different races. And his comments were just so degrading, I had—I couldn’t sit there and say nothing. And I had to say to him, “You know, it’s just not okay. I just don’t agree with what you’re saying. Can you please stop?” And he got so angry with me. I mean, it was really quite—he verbally attacked me and I had to just leave the house. Thankfully I could take a walk with their son, Craig. And we had to get out of the space, so that Gary could calm down, and then come back again. But it was really an indicator for me that this is not a really good person. This is not someone that I choose to associate with. And Lois really didn’t have anything to say about it. So that’s also—it’s a bit concerning, you know. Like, why couldn’t she step in? So, yeah, a lot of trouble.
There’s been an instance where Craig, their son, came to South Africa and he did so well. He really improved in life and he found what he was looking for. And he, he handled a lot of things that he had attention on, that he wasn’t happy with what he was doing, and he stopped doing those things. And he actually wanted to stay in South Africa and help other people the same way he was helped. And the amount of trouble that caused when he told Lois and Gary, it was like a nuclear explosion had gone off because he’d now chosen to help other people. So, yeah, that was a bit—also another indicator for me. Like, what’s going on? Why wouldn’t it be okay for him to try and help people? Isn’t that a good thing? It’s good to help mankind. So yes, that was really rough on Craig. He had to go home. But I know that he’s finally—he’s managed to do what he’s wanting to do and he is helping other people now.
So, my kids don’t want to see her [Lois] or Gary or Brandon, her child, one child, and Brett [child] and Gary. And so, there’s definitely been instances where, you know, where if your communication is taken and then twisted and then used in a way that it wasn’t intended at all, there’s not much you can do to fight back against that.
I have recently received 93 threatening emails in one morning from Brandon, Lois’ son. These emails are incredibly antagonistic and threatening. And it isn’t the first time I’ve received emails like this from him. There have been times in the past where—really threatening towards myself personally and a number of people. And, you know, to receive 93 in one go, is quite something. And it’s not, you know, something he’s just sending because it’s something fun to do. He has an intention and that intention is not good. I also know that he has sent these threatening emails to Geray [his aunt] who has spent so much of her time, her whole life, if I can put it that way, helping other people. And now you have—that’s a person of goodwill. And you have another individual sending such threatening emails, it’s devastating.
I have no doubt that Lois has an intention to ensure that our family remains in strife, infighting and not getting on because in that way she can sort of stay in the middle of all that. Now that I have no contact with her—none of us do, which we’ve personally chosen to do, we don’t want to have that kind of person in between us—we just get on so well. And everything is going brilliantly. Everyone is happy. And there is just no—there’s no contention between any of us.
